Comments on: Astounding… http://www.fraggedformysins.com/2005/12/astounding/ Thu, 29 Apr 2010 07:59:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Gina http://www.fraggedformysins.com/2005/12/astounding/comment-page-1/#comment-124 Gina Sat, 31 Dec 2005 16:27:00 +0000 http://www.fraggedformysins.com/?p=42#comment-124 I agree with Heather- women are the same way, to a degree. Instead of calling it a "buddy" we can do activities with, we want a "best friend" we can stay up all night giggling and talking with about our deepest, darkest secrets. In other words, women need to be purposeful about joining their men in buddy activities, and men need to be purposeful about talking and connecting to their women on a deep emotional level. I am not suggesting that a wonderful, complex relationship can be boiled down to only that, but it's definitely part of the basic things that make men and women unique. I think it's cool that it makes our relationships well-rounded with activities, deep emotional connection, and, oh yeah, the sex, too. ;) I will also say that I knew it would be important for me to marry someone who was passionate about music and I could share that with. Jason, it's not bad to look for someone like that! Part of having an enjoyable relationship is shared interests. Maybe you should look for them in the first place, not "never commit" because they don't like music, or whatever. I agree with Heather- women are the same way, to a degree. Instead of calling it a “buddy” we can do activities with, we want a “best friend” we can stay up all night giggling and talking with about our deepest, darkest secrets.
In other words, women need to be purposeful about joining their men in buddy activities, and men need to be purposeful about talking and connecting to their women on a deep emotional level.
I am not suggesting that a wonderful, complex relationship can be boiled down to only that, but it’s definitely part of the basic things that make men and women unique. I think it’s cool that it makes our relationships well-rounded with activities, deep emotional connection, and, oh yeah, the sex, too. ;)
I will also say that I knew it would be important for me to marry someone who was passionate about music and I could share that with. Jason, it’s not bad to look for someone like that! Part of having an enjoyable relationship is shared interests. Maybe you should look for them in the first place, not “never commit” because they don’t like music, or whatever.

]]> By: Emma http://www.fraggedformysins.com/2005/12/astounding/comment-page-1/#comment-123 Emma Fri, 30 Dec 2005 21:38:00 +0000 http://www.fraggedformysins.com/?p=42#comment-123 Eric forgot to add something. To go along with this theory that "All a man wants is a buddy he can have sex with," I must tell you that I am that woman. I'm every man's buddy. Well, not EVERY man. But I am some man's PERFECT WOMAN. I like generalizing things to the point that everyone who reads goes, "OMG, Eric is a geek. He knows everything!" Eric forgot to add something.
To go along with this theory that “All a man wants is a buddy he can have sex with,” I must tell you that I am that woman. I’m every man’s buddy. Well, not EVERY man. But I am some man’s PERFECT WOMAN.
I like generalizing things to the point that everyone who reads goes, “OMG, Eric is a geek. He knows everything!”

]]> By: the wife http://www.fraggedformysins.com/2005/12/astounding/comment-page-1/#comment-122 the wife Fri, 30 Dec 2005 21:28:00 +0000 http://www.fraggedformysins.com/?p=42#comment-122 wow, thanks for proving that guys are really just bigger children... and, is the not committing because the girls weren't musical? I don't think I'm actually going to get an answer for fear of worms, but I thought I'd ask. and, I don't think that the categories are limited to just one. sometimes, people can have more than one in common. and for the record, women want the buddy part too - we just call it being best friends. we tend to make everything sound more . . . flowery!?! I do happen to absolutely love my wonderful geek! I think I may have expressed that already in previous comments.... wow, thanks for proving that guys are really just bigger children…

and, is the not committing because the girls weren’t musical? I don’t think I’m actually going to get an answer for fear of worms, but I thought I’d ask.

and, I don’t think that the categories are limited to just one. sometimes, people can have more than one in common.

and for the record, women want the buddy part too – we just call it being best friends. we tend to make everything sound more . . . flowery!?!

I do happen to absolutely love my wonderful geek! I think I may have expressed that already in previous comments….

]]> By: dizzymusik http://www.fraggedformysins.com/2005/12/astounding/comment-page-1/#comment-121 dizzymusik Fri, 30 Dec 2005 19:59:00 +0000 http://www.fraggedformysins.com/?p=42#comment-121 "the psychological phenomena that convinces people that everyone thinks like he does" would be what <a HREF="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jean_Piaget" rel="nofollow">piaget </A> refers to as egocentrism, and it occurs in normal children from age 2-7 in the <a HREF="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theory_of_cognitive_development#Preoperational_stage" rel="nofollow">preoperational stage of development</A> ...so you say i need a music girl, huh? maybe that's why i never commit? (realizing i might open a can of worms with that question i'm going to stop now.) “the psychological phenomena that convinces people that everyone thinks like he does” would be what piaget refers to as egocentrism, and it occurs in normal children from age 2-7 in the preoperational stage of development
…so you say i need a music girl, huh? maybe that’s why i never commit? (realizing i might open a can of worms with that question i’m going to stop now.)

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